How do you navigate making an emotionally difficult decision? Especially the decisions that has you saying no to something you want?
Sometimes we want two separate things that are contradiction to one another, or goes against our priorities. For example, we say we want to save money for an emergency but then decide to say yes to buying those new pairs of shoes. Or, we say we want to create more life balance but we over commit ourselves and have a packed schedule.
Before we make decisions, we must engage in an introspective process to really assess the impact of choosing it, and how it matches or conflicts with other decisions we have already made.
Although we want something, it is not necessarily what we need. That realization will not come to you without taking time to go inside of you; discover internal information (e.g. cues and signals), connect with the right solutions (your truth) within directing you to what you need, and live authentically to the guidance (however difficult).
Initially, we attempt to distract ourselves by solely focusing on the excitement of getting what we want, without much thought to anything else. Of course, that is when we fully welcome input from others that supports what we want and ignore messages that contradicts. In such instances, we have tunnel vision. We keep ignoring the internal warning signs that it is not the best choice for us.
Quickly, there is an increasingly agitating internal negative energy that cannot be ignored. It is often an unsettling sensation that is located somewhere in the body (e.g. chest, head, stomach). Each person is unique as to where they ma be better attuned to connecting with their inner world. Wherever its locations, it is an internal signal that something is not right. If left ignored, it will become more pronounce and feel heavier and weighs you down. Soon, it will spill out into behaviors, and experience greater unease and problems along the way.
What’s the answer? Stop ignoring your inner warning signals.
Do not ignore the inner warning signs. Take time to stop and journey inside of you – your mind and heart – to assess what is your right answer. Actively engage with your inner world by going inside of you to ask yourself questions, and offer honest answers.
How To Make The Right Choices From A Difficult Decision:
Slow down and go inside of yourself to listen in, and ask questions like:
– Is my saying ‘yes’ the right answer for me now?
– What’s going on?
– What am I gaining?
– What am I losing?
– What short-term or long-term impact will this cause in my life?
– How does my getting this fit with my personal goals/vision/dreams?
– How do I really feel about my choice?
Keep in mind, the process may not give immediate answers. Once you get the right answer, you must immediately engage in actions that support it. Once you do, you will begin to receive peace and clarity about your next steps. You will have less problems and create positive experiences.
Fully embrace your right answers, as provided from within you, to live your best life.
What do you gain from slowing down to listen in, and affirming the right answer?
- A calm and peaceful experience of fully connecting with yourself
- A relaxed posture and a slight smile on your face
- Affirming your inner truths
- Discovering answers matches with the bigger picture, including your values and goals
- The self-validation that allows you to be feel confident
- Making fewer mistakes that causes you emotional pain and suffering
Take time to cultivate a deeper connection within, to discover your right answers, and affirm it.
So, ask yourself:
How do I decide how something is the right answer for me?
How does my body communicate my experience of ‘it just feels right?’
What do I say or do to cheer myself on?
Consciously choose to Discover ~ Connect ~ Live
