A reality is life will present disappointments and setbacks. To have such experiences is a natural part of living life. The key is not to let them define you or direct how you live your life.
Many people experiences challenges in life, and they become so discouraged that they quit continuing on toward what they wanted. In doing so, they are not able to get what they want. We cannot quit, because, in doing so, we cannot successfully achieve our dreams.
We must continue to live.
It is important to stay persistent and consistent with putting forth energy toward what you want. At times, it is difficult to stay the course and keep moving forward. There appears an enticing urge to give up. Do not feed that urge. Do not give up. Cultivate a mindset that quitting is not an option. Instead, keep taking action steps forward even when it seems things are not going exactly as you planned.
The little challenges along the way is nothing compared to the big win of living your dreams. Staying the course by remaining focused and acting on the goal, will help the final outcome feel even sweeter.
Wherever you are in your life journey, make the intentional decision to actively live your life. Consciously choose to live a life where you define your dreams, set goals and are actively living them out.
There will be some goals that are easily attained. Others will be challenging. Celebrate those that are easy successes. Stay focused on your bigger vision as you keep striving forward toward your accomplishing the goals that are a little more challenging. Stay the course with taking action steps forward, no matter what disappointments that appears, because success is not far away.
How To Stay Focused On Your Personal Goals Through Disappointments And Setbacks:
Acknowledge how you are feeling, without judgement. Sit with the emotion and let yourself feel it. Then find ways to let it out in a healthy way (e.g. talking about it or journaling your thoughts and feelings).
Calm your emotions. Remain mindful to balance acknowledging the natural emotions, but do not add fuel to unhelpful feelings that will lead you toward further negativity and state of inactivity. Do not engage in victim thinking or speaking (e.g. “woe is me”).
Accept the facts of what your are experiencing. Acknowledge the emotional impact of how it affects you. Acknowledge the disappointments and setbacks as being a natural part of life.
Cultivate a mindset that staying stuck in the state of disappointment and quitting is not an option.
Choose to see disappointments and setbacks as a learning opportunity to further improve who you are (e.g. your character and mindset), and how you approach your goal. Go back to the specific personal goal and assess if it is realistic. Evaluate if you need to adjust your expectations on set targets for specific junctures. Choose to seek opportunities that can further support you in your goal.
Seek the counsel and support of a trusted person who can offer feedback and perspective. Remain open to hearing with an open-mind.
Quickly make necessary adjustments and changes to your goals, and how you are actively seeking to complete it.
Engage in an activity that you enjoy and feel confident doing. In doing so, you are creating positive energy from engaging in something you enjoy. It will help you quickly release the negative weight from disappointment.
Surround yourself with a close-knit group of people (e.g. friends, mentors, family members) who strives to live a life going after their own aspirations. They are the people who do not give up, especially during challenging moments along the way, and successfully achieve many dreams. Have them be an inspiration and motivation to keep moving forward toward your personal goals.
So, ask yourself:
What have I intentionally chosen, my “it,” that I am not giving up on?
How will I stay motivated on my vision? support?
Consciously choose to
