Ladies, be mindful what you commit to. There are moments, we agree and ‘commit’ to things but later break it. We must stop that!
Why do we commit and sometimes not follow-through? Some of the reasons include:
- Being unclear on personal priorities – influenced by others “I guess since everyone else agrees”
- Being fully immersed in ‘super-woman’ mode – misconception of “I can do it all no matter what’s happening”
- Being uninterested from the start — not interested but obligated “I felt bad and so…”
- Being led by the wrong motivations – like, wanting to prove something to someone “I’ll show him/her/them”
Being driven by the examples above is being led by things that is not relevant and important to you. It is not related to your life’s story. It quickly creates an experience of being shackled by an undesired obligation, and it restricts you from living the life you want. Because of that, you will fall off from following through with the commitment. Then of course, not following through to its completion creates a slew of challenging negative emotions and negative energy.
We are able to complete our commitments, even when dealing with problems, when they are essential and matches the kind of life we want to live. It is easier to commit and be dedicated to a cause you believe truly matches who you are, what you believe and how you want to live. Focusing on completing things that you want, that you are truly interested in, and it is a match to your personal needs allows your dedication and degree of commitment to be much stronger. It increases the chance of you completing it.
How can we begin to do differently?
An initial first step is to engage in an intentional process. We can stop breaking commitments by first consciously choosing not to agree to things that are not a match. The best step is to slow yourself down to fully assess and make a conscious choice.
Guide To Stop Breaking Commitments:
Stop and ask yourself the following questions:
- Am I genuinely interested in this?
- Is this a match to how I want to live?
- Is this creating any imbalance in my life?
- Will this create experiences that help me feel free to live the kind of life I want, or lead to restrictions?
- What is my motivation for wanting to agree to this commitment?
- What impact will this have on me now – daily, weekly and monthly?
- What kind of future is my agreeing with this commitment creating for me?
- Who else is impacted if I agree to this commitment?
- How will I feel if I agree to this and unable to follow through?
Once you set and agree to a commitment, make sure you follow-through. Having the intention to do something is not as powerful as actually doing. We must commit and act.
Take a moment and vision yourself:
Living a life where you choose to complete things that are important to you.
Having very little or no things left undone.
Consistently, remaining selective and eliminating the non-essentials in your life.
What feelings come up for you? So, what will it take for you to embrace such a life?
Today, ask yourself…
What are my life essentials?
What are the things I’m doing that I don’t want to or is no longer serving me?
How am I completing the things that are important to me?
What are the things I need to cut from my life?
Consciously choose to Discover ~ Connect ~ Live
